It's funny how much love and support is out there in the plus community, when it's coming from those outside of the people who are perusing similar goals that of yourself. I'll be honest, when I came into this, I came into it with a bit of naivete. I just thought that amongst the sea of "misfits" we would all be able to ban together and uplift each other. I wasn't entirely wrong, but I wasn't exactly right either. As a curvy, voluptuous, full-figured, plus size, fat (whatever you wanna call me) woman, my image is what makes up a large demographic of what not only this country is jam packed with...but what other countries find to be physically attractive. And even with that being a fact, that is not what's portrayed in the media....this isn't news...we all should know this by now....it's 2015.
And even though we really gained traction in 2013, kicking in the door waving the four four (Biggie reference), we have miles ahead of us not only as it pertains to mainstreaming the thicker woman, but making the plus-centric industry more inclusive to not only the mass market...but to our very own. Brands, designers, organizations...you name it; they've all been instrumental in the perpetuation of this culture of "better than" and the culture of exclusion.
We've adopted the "mean girls" attitude (right along with the rest of society) that we've fought against throughout our lives trying to prove our worth to not only ourselves...but to others, and now it's a culture growing rampant amongst our own community. This shit is counterproductive as all hell and I for one am tired of it, because honey we all deserve some shine, we all have worth, we're all stars.
Which brings me to my next topic, becoming a "STAR" and chasing that fame demon. Don't get caught up in seeing your name in lights, especially if it's at the cost of loosing who you are and what you believe in. So much of the time we place our value on what others think and feel, it's hard to not do this but we must get out of this habit. People will move in and out of your lives and in the end you will be left with you, your truths, and your sentiments. Work on building those up so that there's a strong foundation standing once that tsunami that is life and people finish crashing down on you (which trust me they will). Keep pushing forward, find your purpose, and fulfill it. This is easier said than done (as I always say) it's something I struggle with daily...but it doesn't make it any less true and important.
And though it's of the utmost importance to put stock in self worth instead of chasing after the opinions of others and their trivial validations....doesn't make success and the role people play in that success any less important either. Relationships are essential, and though you are responsible for your own being....this does not absolve people from their duties as a human being on this planet, and how they treat one another. You are NOT alone on this planet, and how you treat people matters. No matter how "put together", how"ZEN", or how "UN-BOTHERED" they may be or seem; we are all but humans with real human emotions and weaknesses. Hurt....well... hurts, remember that.
On to the fashion!
My style seriously is a mix of so many things, but at the core of it all....you'll definitely find something studded or spiked, something skull-ed, or just something plain ole rebellious (whether it be color combo, print combo, or even if it's my personality I choose to wear as my accessory, etc...). It's just first nature to me to have my middle finger raised, and if I'm being fancy...I throw in a raised pinky in the air too...because i'm classy. Even when it seems like I may be playing it safe, (trust me it's like a game of where is waldo) just look a little harder and you'll find my act of defiance. Don't get me wrong, I like things to make sense, I like structure, and some semblance of order...but it's under my reign. I make the rules. (We are mostly talking about fashion here...*smirk emoji*)
In this outfit I decided to rock my beloved cobalt blue moto jacket from Forever21, it has leatherette paneling....need I say more about that...? I threw it over this semi-modified Fake Socialite Of NYC Tee from Curtis Bryant (Interview HERE), it was suiting for the theme of this post and what's been weighing heavy on Le Mind. I paired it with my newest loves that were gifted to me by my main BISH, they're these fly charcoal moto jeans from Target...LIFE! I popped on my obvious and apparent-winter-wears with everything-in every damn post it seems-has the least amount of "slip and fall, and can't get up"-tall boots; and I finished the look off with a skull-print face cover (that not only protects you from this offensive weather...but looks incredibly BOSS) and my ever fave wrap-around bracelet.
Join me in me in my hair flip, and prepare yourself for my video below of some supreme headbanging.
What I'm Wearing:
- Face Mask (Gifted)
- Jacket from Forever21.com. $34.80 (???)
- T-Shirt from FSNYC.bigcartel.com. $25 (Gifted)
- Bracelet from Burlington Coat Factory. $7
- Grey Moto-Jeans from Target. $35 (Gifted & currently on sale)
- Black Tall Boots from Avenue.com. $33.60 (On Sale)