If I could compare relationships, we would closely resemble Doug and Carrie from King Of Queens. When we first saw the show we couldn't believe the resemblance, it quickly became "OUR" show, and I have to admit that watching that show made me love "US" that much more.
And as much as we love each other, we still have our times where we could just murder each other. I'm usually the RAH RAH one between the two of us, but surprisingly though, my husband accepts this about me too even though it's unpleasant and he wishes that I was able to control my anger a little better.
Through out my life I have had my share of relationships and have made my share of mistakes within those relationships. Though there were trying occurrences within those relationships, I managed to leave them with a deeper understanding of myself and people, thankfully with little to no regrets.
As I went through each passing relationship, I tried to make sure I didn't enter a new one with the baggage of the ones I was leaving in the past and tried to improve myself as well, with that I feel my relationships and the caliber of men improved as I mosied on through life.
This brings us to the MAN I currently have in my life.
He, like most males, has a tendency to revert back to that prepubescent boy, who's annoying, needs to be told what to do and when to do it, and losses sight of anything other than themselves, from time to time...but do not get it twisted... he is very much so a MAN.
He treats me well and with respect, he makes valiant efforts to right his wrongs and fix his mistakes, he loves me with every inch of himself and shows it, he appreciates me for who I am and what I look like when I'm steppin' it out and when I just rolled out of bed looking and smelling like the seventh layer of hell, he gets my humor and he has the ability to make me laugh (sometimes even in the middle of an argument), he knows my body and worships it, he makes me feel beautiful when he looks at me, makes me feel comfortable to be myself at all times, and he let's me be free to be me. He supports everything I do, he takes care of his castle, he cleans, he cooks ( I do the majority of that, but he does do it), he's ambitious, he's educated, he's accomplished, he's not afraid to check me and tell me that I'm wrong or if I'm being a bitch, brat, or ungrateful, he's honest, he's respectful, he respects my family, he's sexy as all FUCK, and we share an inside world that no one can come near or touch. This to me makes a MAN, he's MY MAN, and I am so grateful and blessed to have a person like this at this stage in my life.
We've been together for just about 11yrs and through all the ups and downs, I can honestly say he is the best thing that has happened to me and my life.
I have always wanted to have a person I could grow OLD and GRUMPY with, and I feel like I've found that person. I can't tell what will happen in the future, but I do hope to God that he is in it and we're happy together and just as in love, if not more, as we are now.
Today marks our four year wedding anniversary, our eleventh year of being together will be marked in October, and I'm feeling blessed and have high hopes for the many more years that are to come.