Before we get into the meat and potatoes of this post I’m gonna veer to the left and toucthah on something that’s been grinding my gears. Quite frankly I feel triggered (*Laughs with a tinge of slight mania*).
Are we really relying on some Pantone whoever the hell to dictate what we should like, wear, and when we should wear it….? I say FUCK THAT!
Ok, it’s disclaimer time. Just in case you’re beginning to feel your panties bunching, please know that I am in no way trying to trivialize the work of the great minds of fashion and style. In no way am I attempting to discredit what goes into the creation of these guidelines and straight up moods/moments…. hell, that’s pretty much what I do here. What I don’t necessarily agree with (and this is just MY little ole opinion of course), is this whole elitist bull ticky and the perpetuation of the idea that in order to be “IN” you have to fit a mold. And stop trying to act like this shit is new. Authenticity is a thing, originality…. not so much.
Do you know when I first rocked this look? 2017. Do you know why? Because I’ve always liked color and all of its variants. I wear WTF I want…. when TF I want…. and to be honest so should you.
I’m telling you, if one more person (influencer or nah) fains cluelessness as to why they are so into NEON all of a sudden, or they really like blush lately for some reason…..I’m gonna lose it! Look, there’s nothing wrong with liking things or wanting to try something new, but do we have to act like you really don’t know you’re a trendy ass bitch? OWN IT! There are basic bitches, there are not so basic bitches with basic bitch tendencies, there’s the eclectic bitch, there’s the straight up and down outta the field of vision-bitch that’s beyond comprehension (to be considered a work of art/ art hoe), and a million variations in between. Please own who you are, I can see right through your Oscar Myer and it’s making me wanna spit.
I absolutely promote doing whatever the fuck you want and going with your gut, I also promote stock piling on a current trend when it just so happens to be something you already like or have been waiting to become a trend so that it’s more readily available than if it weren’t (there’s a difference, trust and believe); but the shit I’ve been seeing as of a couple years now, much less as of late, admittedly has me salty.
It’s triggering when something that you’ve always liked, that has been a part of you for as long as you can remember (before a fuckin’ “trend report”), just gets hijacked by mainstream B to the S’ers. I remember being the “weirdo” in school growing up. Not just because of my interests…. but because of what I wore and how I wore it. Don’t get me wrong, I didn’t give a solitary fuck then about people and their opinions on my style or life choice (sometimes to a fault), and I certainly give even less of a fuck now.
Fast forward to what’s “current”. Everyone and there mama is now rocking what was laughed at and ridiculed back then. Now, I know some of y’all know EXACTLY what I’m harping about. I also know some of you feel I should just shut up and be grateful that I, along with others within my “style weight-class”, now have a time to shine and be appreciated. Then there are those of you who really couldn’t give a shit because you’re just here for the style info and not the drama (I gotchu, all that info is down below). I hear you all. I get it. It’s all valid. But try and put yourself in our shoes for a second, try and realize how annoying this shit is already.
*RANT OVER*
Can you tell I’ve been through some shit, lol? Are you offended by my rant? Are you turned off by my potty mouth? Welllll………?
Lately I haven’t been as active on here. Also, my socials took a hit as well. It’s because I’ve been hella sick. If you’ve been reading for a while or have skimmed through any one of the many captions dedicated to a number of my diatribes and pontifications…. you’d know by now this shit ain’t new.
My relapses have been wilding the fuck out. They’ve only been getting worse and more frequent. This makes it incredibly hard to get my shit together the way I want to most of the time. And if ya don’t already know, I have a type-A personality with type-B tendencies so all of this unproductive nonsense is getting on my got dang nerves (despite the smattering of the sprinkling of the good ole type-b).
As a disabled person it’s important to cut yourself some slack. It’s not only up to the people who you’ve surrounded yourself with to understand, but it’s up to you (us) to understand that productivity has many faces and we shouldn’t prescribe to just one. Plus, productivity as a whole and what it can stand for (or how pervasive and misused it can be), has a tendency to become incredibly toxic. There’s a balance and the son of a bitch is elusive, but it’s necessary to obtain. Have I found that balance…? Not even fuckin’ close!
I would definitely like to take a moment to thank each and every one of my lovely supporters and readers, new and old, for being patient and riding wit da kid. Thank you.
As for this here look, like I said, I first rocked this look (a soops casual look mind you) in 2017. I remember buying the jacket after a try-on in Additionelle’s NYC pop-up shop during fashion week. It was during their Jordyn Woods X Additionelle collaboration and I though it was the flyest jacket I’d come across in a while. It gave me all the 90’s hip hop vibes I could ever ask for and I was here for it. Naturally I wanted to pair it with some slightly distressed and faded black denim to match the same fade and texture of the jacket.
These jeans have definitely become a staple in my life and a serious go-to, they’re a perfect blend of effortless badass and Neflix and chill level comfort. Unfortunately, when I went to find a link for y’all….I came across their going out of business banners all up and through their site. WTF is going on?! I get that brick and mortar stores are closing left and right…. but does that mean the virtual store should go? So many of our old school faves have been disappearing and I’m so bent about it.
As a fat person who cares deeply about being able to present themselves with full freedom of expression through varying articles of clothing (at a discounted price-point), this new trend of affordable stores closing… is not the wave. I AM. NOT. HERE. FOR. IT. And with the rise in prices for what we all knew and loved to be discounted garb… the options are becoming fewer and fewer when it comes to afford-ability.
It’s ok though, I’m going to bring my readers some great options that won’t break the bank despite inflation.
I tied it all together with a simple pair of black kicks and pulled a color from the graffiti on the back of the cropped jacket, so I threw on a lightweight sweater in one of those shades. If you know me and my style leanings, you know that chartreuse is my baby, to me it is the color of the Gods.
The best part about this jacket is the multitude of color possibilities due to all the colors of the print on the sleeves, and how easy it is to amp up what would normally have been considered a basic/casual look. It was pricey AF but to be honest it was actually worth it.
What are your thoughts on being trendy? And how do you feel about our favorite tried and true store going out of business?
What I’m Wearing:
Sunnies from Five Below. $5
Jacket from Additionelle.com. $120 (On sale. Alternatives HERE, HERE, HERE, HERE, & HERE))
Top from Target. $8 (on sale many years ago, Alternative HERE)
Jeans from Charlotterusse.com. $20 (On sale many moons ago, Charlotterusse is currently out of business. alternatives HERE, HERE, & HERE)
Sneakers from Payless. $10 (On sale)
