by Jamila Pierre

Let me first say that this isn't a new concept, but as self affirmations go, it needs to be said as much as possible...everyday if necessary.

I do what feels right, I do what makes me happy, I am the CEO of I do what I want industries **coining it...just saying**. 

There will always be hoards of people ready and willing to make you feel as though you need to fit some prototype of what they think a person should look like; how we should act, what we should like, who we should love, who we should be, etc... NO! We were uniquely made to be the boss of our own existence and to live our lives to our own unique standards, not to the standards of others. 

All I'm saying is that in a world where...let's just call them "Nouns" (people, places, and things), try to consistently box you in, make you play nice, make you fit some mass produced mold  so that you can be apart of the herd....I'm encouraging you to not become the sheep.

Step into the light, dance with the wolf, speak up, live out loud, keep your head up, be yourself, take a leap into the direction of not so much selfishness but self preservation, and PROTECT YOUR MAGICK!

It is absolutely possible to be a self- preservationist and be selfless, it's about balance and it's entirely feasible, just make sure you're not compromising you and who you are in the process.

Remember to never let anyone use you as a stepping stool, and that  it's always OK to reach out your hand to pull someone up...but only if you've built up enough strength to do so. What I mean by that is this; if you haven't the means...or haven't built up your own (mental, physical, financial, spiritual, etc...) strength to the point of being able to successfully pull someone up without potentially falling back down with them.... you're doing no one any justice. With that said, it's up to you to determine how much "strength" is needed to carry out the task and if in fact you have enough of it.

DON'T let people shame you into living a life that isn't of your own. More and more people are getting comfortable with the idea that they "own" you (to the point where it's culture...where it's customary). That they can just shame you into being their personal dancing puppet...NO!

DON'T be anyone's dancing puppet! 

Nowadays more than ever, because of media and the growth of social media and how people have an even deeper look into people's personal lives, there's literally a SHAME for everything! And if you get caught up in the "shame web"'ll find yourself demoted from CEO of doing what you want to data entry clerk of IDWIW industries, to just straight unemployed....don't become unemployed in your own life. DON'T let anyone outside of yourself run it.  

At the end of the day you have to do what you need to do for you. You have to be the CEO of doing what you want in life, easier said than done I know...but as long as you're alive on this planet there's nothing more important to attain and live by.

Plus Size Valentines Day Outfit

On to the fashion!

I'm a huge fan of the "black, red, and white" combo, and if you've followed my blog for a while you would've seen evidence of that fact. I am seriously in love with these pants from Forever21  because they are you're quintessential red statement pants, but they're far from one dimensional. I do fancy a good pair of colored bottoms but when there is a subtle print to them it just makes it all the more interesting, and fun. Sometimes a printed bottom can come across juvenile (honestly if i'm in the mood for that I will just roll with it...but in this outfit I wasn't), so in order to class it up a bit I popped on my black Pointed toe pumps, and my white fitted knit blazer...because I'm a CEO....of course....

And to dial down the stuffy,  I decided to go with a lazer-cut leatherette top and my "Ballin'" chain-necklace. For the final touches, I sealed everything in with a red a Bause.

Plus size monochrome

What I'm Wearing:

  1. Blazer from $34.99
  2. Necklace from wholesale district. $5
  3. Laser-cut leatherette top from $19.80
  4. Bracelet from Burlinton Coat Factory. $7
  5. Polkadot pants jeans from $24.90
  6. Studded-heel pumps from Marshalls. $29.99